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Maiveeta wrote:
Of course it matters if you want to have meaningful conversations with diverse peoples. I have found that in understanding how to communicate with others teaches me about my own bullshit filters, and allows me an insight into others. OR we can sequester ourselves and keep our own understanding of things without others input, or understanding.
Yea, conversation with ‘others’ is good
Now, would you consider the quote below ‘conversation?’ Well, I don’t, but that’s just me.
Now, if you want to have good juicy conversations on these boards, ya’ gotta get in with the right crowd, yanno? Sit around and gossip in private. When River came back, holy smokes! That went on for weeks. The latest and greatest has been the to-do here on YAW in regards to copyright infringement or whatever it was. Oh yes, true concern over other boards and what was being said. Then you have to go around all these other boards and follow all the juicy happenings. Then, sit around and gossip about it in private.
But, back to our little ‘feeler’ here. Over the years it seems conversation is not possible. All you’ll get is the usual one line pokes and prods. No substance drawn forth, just the pokes and prods. I’m very familiar with it, it’s what I used to do. Agreement, disagreement, doesn’t matter. There’s nothing there.
Interesting how the discussion of ‘others’ has arisen. Everyone I know talks about others. Even those self-proclaimed in the know. I’m quite straight-forth about it so you usually know where I’m coming from. Daph and the cronies prefer to do it in private though. Whoa, talk about judgement! Makes me look like a saint! Eh, to each our own, I suppose.
Maiv, this seems to circle around to your initial post in regards to those who think they are in-the-know. If they behave in a certain manner of course their followers will do the same. What behaviors would those be? Poor communication skills, (one example meaning one-way communication, I say, You do, gossiping in private, etc., etc.,) and serious cases of a lack of self worth. Good fakery going on, but one learns to see through that after awhile.
What’s up with the followers though?? Even more insecure and worse conversation skills? The conversation skills; How do I state my opinion? Also, no-one wants to really say anything for fear of being dissected or being wrong. That’s the self worth issue. Did I get approval from who I’m attempting to impress? Amazing.
So, back to conversation. Just hook up with either Daph, Ellen, Lori or Vicki, and you’ll be set. Well, as long as you are conversing about someone else
Of course there are many more out there, but these mentioned do a right fine job of it. Now, if you’re really serious, I can hook you up with some true Masters, but that would entail many more years in practice of gossiping, lying, backstabbing and manipulation.
Let me know.
daphne wrote:You taking what I said out of context. My question was to Zam, yet again talking about "others'. Hence Zam's little remarks to moi.
P.S. Oh, I almost forgot, yes, it does matter! Just as much as the private gossip sessions! Just remember though, once you’ve voiced your opinion you’ll be labeled as ‘such and such and so and so.’ As long as there’s a consensus, it’s all good.
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